If you were asked to write down your values now, what would you list? Maybe you should do it? What do you stand for? What do you want others to know you for?
Would things like honesty, passion, humility, loyalty, trustworthiness, integrity, wisdom, generosity, compassion, justice, assertiveness, commitment make it to your list?
Now a value, is only a value if you can see it consistently in your life! This thought occurred to me and then struck fear into me when I was given the task of identifying my values.
If I claimed to be generous that meant I needed to be generous with everything I had.
If I claimed loyalty to be a value, was I loyal to my friends all the time or did I pick and choose?
If I wanted to put honesty on the list, was I always honest with everyone all of the time?
If I wrote down justice, was I always a campaigner for this and therefore lived a just life, or was it more for certain causes that suited me or drove me nuts at the time?
What I realised is that it is so easy to brag about what values I think I have, whilst simultaneously contradicting everything I stand for, or I think I stand for just with the way I live my life. If I am like this, if you are like this then we are destined for relational disaster. First of all you loose yourself, because you do not know who you actually are. Secondly you loose intimacy in close relationships because your close friends see you are living a lie and stop trusting you. And thirdly you deny Christ. Because if Christ is the truth then you are not aligning yourself with Him.
So maybe a value check is in order for us all, if we are adamant about truly following Jesus!